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Dear Abby — Wife learns man was seeking more than exercise at the gym

D ear Abby: I have been with my husband for 10 years. We were married six months ago. Before the wedding, we had some breakups. During one of them, he dated another woman briefly. The encounter led to her becoming pregnant, and she gave birth to a boy who is now a year old. I learned about her and her pregnancy five months before our wedding, but we have been able to work through it with intense counseling.

Justice in Motion — Rent and habitability issues: Don’t waive your rights

As you drive through Grays Harbor, it is difficult to miss the substandard housing and blight—the blue tarps, sagging/mossy roofs, boarded/broken windows, etc. Sadly, many of these properties are rental properties with absentee or apathetic landlords. Affordable habitable rental properties are seriously lacking in this community and many seem to accept this as the norm. However, and I’m not sure why, we have recently received an uptick in tenant complaints about their rental properties’ conditions. A few of these tenants were in rentals damaged in the January flood; most were not.

Hospital worker violated law by reading husband’s records

Dear Abby: “Concerned in Massachusetts” (Feb. 20) used her status as a hospital employee to access her husband’s medical records and found a history of STDs. I’m a registered nurse with 40 years’ experience. Every healthcare organization I know of teaches all their employees about HIPAA violations and that accessing private patient medical information is a criminal offense. It is essential that patients know they can trust us to protect their privacy. We have specific policies against using one’s employee status to access a relative’s medical information.

Secret engagement should stay secret awhile longer

Dear Abby: I have been dating my boyfriend, “Derek,” for four years. After a night of emotion-filled discussion, he asked me to marry him. I said yes, but it has always been a difficult idea for me to wrap my head around. I’m turning 21 and although that may be old enough for some people to get married and have kids, it scares the heck out of me.

Renter hesitates to act on violence next door

Dear Abby: I am currently renting a room in the house of the mother of a friend of mine. The house is also shared with my friend’s younger sister, who is in a relationship with another woman. Their relationship is pretty violent. The other night I was in my room, which is located next to the sister’s room, and could hear her beating up on her girlfriend.
 

Dear Abby — Teen booklet will help parents start conversation about sex

D ear Abby: Do you have any information or advice on how to talk to my 12-year-old stepdaughter about sex? I have a pretty good idea about where to take the conversation. I don’t plan to make it a big deal — not so serious as to scare her, but not too lighthearted either. You never know what kids are saying about it in school these days. I want her to know the door is always open should she need to talk. (My mother did that with me, which I appreciated.)

Couple deep in tax hole need help in climbing out

Dear Abby: I have just learned that my sister’s husband of 35 years (I’ll call him George) hasn’t filed their personal income taxes going back a number of years. This has caused a lot of stress and anxiety for my sister, who recently underwent breast cancer treatment. Apparently, he hasn’t filed because of his inability to organize. (His family has denial issues.)

Nothing New — Death among the demimonde

Back in the early 1900s, when the mills were running three shifts and ships arrived daily from exotic, foreign ports, the “Gentlemen’s Resorts” of Grays Harbor were very popular and somewhat necessary destinations. The “inmates” of those establishments would entertain the men, but at great personal cost. Here are the stories of three of the women who could no longer take the grinding life of the Harbor prostitute and turned to a final, tragic solution. Rest in Peace, Dear Ladies.

Wife’s future is a difficult subject for dying husband

Dear Abby: My husband has stage 4 cancer and is in constant pain. A big worry for him is my being alone in life after his passing. Several months ago when the subject came up, I told him that while I’m not a prophet, I know I’ll be OK. I’m a social person. I have a nice support group with various organizations, and I’m close with family and co-workers, etc.

Mom regrets she has stayed in abusive marriage too long

Dear Abby: How do I forgive myself for staying with my husband “for the sake of the kids” and because I was afraid of him? Our children are teenagers now and both suffer from low self-esteem and depression. We lived far away from any family while they were growing up, and I was financially dependent and scared. I realize now that it wasn’t the right thing to do.

Man objects to girlfriend’s family vacation with ex

Dear Abby: My girlfriend has been divorced for two years. She shares custody of her two girls, ages 5 and 6, with her ex. She wants to remain friends with him for the sake of the girls. I have supported her friendly relationship with him despite the repeated lies he tells and the deceptive stories he makes up in an attempt to break us up.