The best, most justifiable divorce is hell. It goes downhill from there in a big hurry. Which is why I admire people who can negotiate that hell with honor, justice and equity.
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Autumn has officially arrived according to the calendar, but the beachers all know it’s here because you can still drive the backroads admiring the beginning blush of fall colors and listen to the purr of Kenworths, the powerful growl of the Peterbilts and the heavy sounds of a Mack changing gears on a hill.
Dear Abby: I am a 35-year-old single man. Three years ago, I took legal custody of my niece (who is now 8) to prevent her from becoming a ward of the state. Her parents were drug addicts. Shortly afterward, my mother moved in to help me raise her, which is greatly needed and appreciated.
Dear Abby: My wife is in a nursing home and will be for a long time. While I was caring for her at home, I was very lonely. She wasn’t there for me except to demand that I do this and that.
Dear Abby: My birthday is in 26 days and my dad just told me he is not going to get me a birthday present. And I really want an iPod Touch for school. I’m in the fifth grade and everyone in my class has an iPod Touch, iPad or iPhone. EXCEPT ME!
Last week I introduced you, by way of the Chinese national legislature, to Tom and Flo, but perhaps a more formal introduction is in order.
Dear Abby: My husband recently passed away, and among his papers I discovered evidence of another previous marriage. It came as a shock because he had never told me.
As a kid, I read the Sherlock Holmes stories and the mysteries of Agatha Christie. As an adult, I wrote four mysteries that focused on a Quaker heroine solving crimes she happened across in her religious community. (I published them using my grandmother’s name — Irene Allen — as a pseudonym.) And, as a geologist, I’ve read about real-life criminal investigations that involved samples of sand and soil.
Dear Abby: I always thought that “Lana,” my wife of 14 years, and I had the perfect marriage. When I discovered she was having an affair, it hit me like a train wreck. After many weeks of trying to discover who she really is, I found out she has had several affairs throughout our marriage.
Rabbi Mark H. Levin, Congregation Beth Torah: Two biblical Hebrew words translate as “emptiness.” One, pronounced “rake,” most often means physically empty, as in “Don’t appear before me empty-handed” (Exodus 23:15), but may also describe “wicked people,” as in Judges 11:3.
Dear Abby: I am a 42-year-old divorced father of two. I have had a girlfriend, “Dawn,” for about a year. She has met my kids, but she’s still uncomfortable with the “situation.” She has concerns about me having been married before, such as having experienced many of the firsts she has yet to enjoy.
Dear Abby: I had an awful childhood. After I was finally taken into state custody, I cycled through six different foster homes. Because of it I have struggled with mental health issues for as long as I can remember.
Dear Abby: What are the ethics in outing a cheater? Someone I know has been cheated on by her boyfriend for two years — about as long as she has been with him. I know this because the woman he has been cheating with is someone I know.
Dear Abby: I co-own a professional service business with a woman whose appearance has deteriorated significantly over the last three or four years. “Mary” was never a fashion plate, but she used to be presentable for business.
The relationship between husband and wife can be at times quite contentious. Ideally a happy union exists until death do them part, but often one or the other party opts to call it quits. Here are a few stories from local papers documenting the tale from pitching woo to marriage to dissolution.