Dear Abby: I am 32 and getting married in a year. My biological father lives in Spain and has never been to the U.S. My mother met him when she was teaching English there. I was born in the states and never knew or spoke to my dad growing up. When I was 5, I was adopted by my mom’s then-husband.
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Dear Abby: Throughout my three grandchildren’s lives, I have picked them up from school, and attended school functions, games and activities in which they have participated. Their parents work, and I was helping out.
Dear Abby: I am the 24/7 caregiver for my husband, “Earl.” We were both widowed when we married nine years ago. His daughter, “Mindy,” hasn’t talked to her father for six years — hasn’t called, emailed or even sent a birthday card. If he tried calling her, she wouldn’t pick up.
I don’t know how many of us remember the old TV show, “You Asked for It.” Obviously, I’m one of the “us” who does, because you did ask for it. Here’s what you asked:
Dear Abby: I’m frustrated about how to connect with my young adult son’s 18-year-old girlfriend. He told me she has a bad relationship with her divorced parents, so he’s hoping we can bond.
Dear Abby: I’m in my early 50s, disabled and live with my elderly mother. Between the ages of 8 and 11 I was sexually abused by my adoptive father. My mother finally caught him in the act, but the next day they acted like nothing had happened. He never did it again, and it was never spoken about, ever.
D ear Abby: I have been with my husband for 10 years. We were married six months ago. Before the wedding, we had some breakups. During one of them, he dated another woman briefly. The encounter led to her becoming pregnant, and she gave birth to a boy who is now a year old. I learned about her and her pregnancy five months before our wedding, but we have been able to work through it with intense counseling.
Q: What does your faith say about marriage?
As you drive through Grays Harbor, it is difficult to miss the substandard housing and blight—the blue tarps, sagging/mossy roofs, boarded/broken windows, etc. Sadly, many of these properties are rental properties with absentee or apathetic landlords. Affordable habitable rental properties are seriously lacking in this community and many seem to accept this as the norm. However, and I’m not sure why, we have recently received an uptick in tenant complaints about their rental properties’ conditions. A few of these tenants were in rentals damaged in the January flood; most were not.
Dear Abby: “Concerned in Massachusetts” (Feb. 20) used her status as a hospital employee to access her husband’s medical records and found a history of STDs. I’m a registered nurse with 40 years’ experience. Every healthcare organization I know of teaches all their employees about HIPAA violations and that accessing private patient medical information is a criminal offense. It is essential that patients know they can trust us to protect their privacy. We have specific policies against using one’s employee status to access a relative’s medical information.
Dear Abby: I have been dating my boyfriend, “Derek,” for four years. After a night of emotion-filled discussion, he asked me to marry him. I said yes, but it has always been a difficult idea for me to wrap my head around. I’m turning 21 and although that may be old enough for some people to get married and have kids, it scares the heck out of me.
Dear Abby: I recently found a notebook of my mom’s. On the outside cover it said, “Disclaimer: Do Not Open Unless You’re Me!” Being the curious soul that I am, I opened it despite the disclaimer.
Dear Abby: I am currently renting a room in the house of the mother of a friend of mine. The house is also shared with my friend’s younger sister, who is in a relationship with another woman. Their relationship is pretty violent. The other night I was in my room, which is located next to the sister’s room, and could hear her beating up on her girlfriend.
Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Aidan,” and I have been dating for three months. I want to tell my parents, but I don’t know how. They say I’m too young and immature to date. I’ll be 16 in five months. They say Aidan is obsessed with me and they don’t want me staying in an unhealthy relationship.
Dear Abby: I’m a 24-year-old teacher and graduate student. I have started dating a new man, “Winston,” who makes me feel incredible. We have crazy chemistry like I’ve never had before, and our personalities work perfectly together.