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Wife’s online snooping reveals her lack of trust

Dear Abby: My wife used the search feature for the Ashley Madison emails and discovered an old account I had signed up for late one night, before we were together. I had forgotten all about it. When she brought it up, I panicked and lied because I was embarrassed, but immediately told her what it was. She was upset, but I explained the situation and that I hadn’t even thought about it since we have been together.

Nothing New — Tribal trials and tribulations

Long before the white man arrived on the shores of what is now Grays Harbor, it was home to the native peoples, which the newcomers had long termed “Indians.” They had lived here since time immemorial, living in cedar longhouses and subsisting on salmon, deer, bear and razor clams. In 1800, the Harbor tribes numbered an estimated 1,000 members before a series of epidemics decimated the population and by the 1870s only about 130 remained. Since then the numbers have rebounded and today the Quinault Nation is stronger than ever. Here are a number of stories from the past reflecting the trials and tribulations of the local native population.

Mark Harvey — The best time of my life

In some ways, it’s a rather magical time of year: its cooler, the leaves are turning and showing off and the more future-oriented among us are even thinking about the holidays. Change: It’s what marks and measures our lives, from one season to the next, the one constant: Change.

Caregivers for sick pets also deserve respite from stress

Dear Abby: Our family dog recently passed away after a year-long decline. I had grown up with him. He had reached the point where he needed daily care for his body, even though his mind was 100 percent there. Near the end, things got very bad. I got only about four hours of broken sleep a night caring for him, and no one in the family would help me. During part of his daily care routine, he had a second accident all over the freshly cleaned floor. I lost it and hit him.

What does it mean to love one another?

The Rev. Duke Tufty, Unity Temple on the Plaza, Kansas City: I have an acquaintance named Rupert who continually shows up at family functions, various meetings and other social occasions. I think Rupert is obnoxious, boisterous and overbearing.

Accent questions aren’t that rude

Dear Abby: I have lived in the United States for 40 years. My first 32 years were spent in Puerto Rico, so I speak with an accent. My problem is almost everyone I meet asks me where I’m from. I usually try to disguise my discomfort by jokingly asking them to guess.

Mark Harvey — Debts and what’s protected

Have you ever heard of the “Consumer Financial Protection Bureau?” Neither have I, at least, not recently enough that I remember hearing of it, although the truth is that (a) I only vaguely recall last week, and (b) agencies come and agencies go, so the landscape tends to shift.

Sapphires mistaken for diamonds

Dear Abby: Last year I gave my new (at that time) girlfriend, “Alyssa,” a pair of earrings for her birthday. They were in a box from a department store marked “fine jewelry.” She loved them and became emotional in expressing her gratitude. I thought it was because it was the first piece of jewelry I had ever bought for her.

Does God hear the prayers of non-believers?

The Rev. Bob Hill, pastor emeritus, Community Christian Church: A treasured phrase in the prophet Joel — echoed in an epistle of the Apostle Paul — describes how “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved.” That declaration intimates that God is ever ready to be in relationship with every human being.

Practice makes perfect when polishing your social skills

Dear Abby: I’m 13 years old, and I want to know how I can make my life easier and not be as shy as I am. I have a lot of friends at school, but of course they’re not popular either. I want to still have those friends, but I’d like to be able to strike up conversations with other people. When I try, I get nervous and chicken out before I can get a word out.

Husband not kind to pregnant wife

Dear Abby: I’m a few months pregnant and married to a man I love with all my heart. We have a young son together. For the last couple of months, I have had severe morning sickness, and my husband seems to resent me for it. He complains that I “don’t do anything anymore,” but I have been so ill that some days it’s all I can do to get to work in the morning. I try to help out as much as I can, but it doesn’t seem to be enough.

Man told to hold his tongue demands an apology instead

Dear Abby: I was at my brother-in-law’s house with my husband and our 4-year-old daughter. We were playing our weekly video game, and when my brother-in-law won a round, he shouted a racial epithet. I asked him not to use it in front of my little girl because if she repeats it at school, she could be suspended, and we don’t use that kind of language in our family.