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Nun doesn’t need friend’s concern

Dear Abby: I was best friends with “Joanne” after we met in middle school. She comes from a conservative Christian family and has three successful siblings. This has made her quirky, media-driven pursuits and city life a disappointment to her family. When we were teens and she learned that I was a straight ally for gay rights, she came out to me as a lesbian, but for years only I and a few close friends knew.

Daughter deep in debt needs counseling, not more money

Dear Abby: Three years ago I gave my adult daughter, married with a child, more than $16,000 to help pay off her debts because she couldn’t pay her bills. She and her husband maintain separate accounts, which I find odd. He pays certain expenses; she pays others. Now I find she’s deep in debt again and needs more help.

Wife with wandering husband must track down legal advice

Dear Abby: I’m nearly 100 percent sure my husband is cheating on me. I tracked him a couple of times using the GPS on his phone and saw he wasn’t where he told me he would be. I know he has a female acquaintance who lives in the general area of where he was, so I did a little investigating. Sure enough, she lives exactly where he was. I don’t know whether to confront him now, or wait to try to catch him at her house so there will be no denying it.

Teen needs advice on contraception

Dear Abby: In my family alone, three young women have — by their own admission — gotten pregnant on purpose to get their boyfriends to marry and support them. None of these marriages worked out. The horrible relationships were and still are hurtful and damaging, not only to the children, but also to the rest of the family. I’m aware of several other women who have admitted to entrapping their baby daddy by “forgetting to take their pills,” so I know this isn’t just happening in my family.
 

Wife suffers increasing pain from man’s verbal attacks

Dear Abby: I have been married to “Ken” for 10 years. He is a successful business owner. It has been a struggle to stay married to him because he has control issues and when he doesn’t get his way, he begins a verbal assault on his victim — usually me. He has no friends because he runs them off, claiming they did him wrong (not true), and his employees don’t like him and talk badly about him behind his back. They stay because he pays well. He uses his money to control people.

Ex-friend takes woman’s place at holiday dinners

Dear Abby: I had a close friend from middle school into adulthood. (I’ll call her Lacey.) We were each other’s maids of honor and best friends for years. A few years ago we had a falling out. She was going through a tough time and lashed out at me. When I tried to have a conversation with her to tell her I didn’t like how she was treating me, she told me to “have a nice life.”

Grandma feels disrespected when her advice is ignored

Dear Abby: Whatever happened to respecting one’s elders and recognizing grandparents as head of the family? I recently returned from visiting my son, his wife and my new grandchild. My son’s wife and I had many disagreements on how to care for my grandchild. Instead of respecting my years of experience as a mother and appreciating my help, she chose to ignore my instructions and advice.