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Wife wants out of marriage to join the woman she loves

Dear Abby: I’m a 48-year-old woman. I have known I was gay since I was 14. No one knows because I never acted on it until I met “Bob,” my current common-law husband of 25 years. I fell in love with his sister, “Janelle,” back then. We kissed a few times and fell deeply in love, but because we didn’t want to hurt Bob, we ended what we had.

Mother’s alcoholism poses serious threat to her baby

Dear Abby: I just realized I’m six weeks pregnant. I have always wanted to start a family and raise children with my fiance, but I have a big problem. I am an alcoholic and have been struggling with this issue for a few years. I don’t know the effect this could have on my baby, but I know it isn’t good. My fiance also drinks a lot, and our home situation isn’t the greatest for a child because of it.

Being a good listener is the best way to be heard

Dear Abby: I am responding to “Tired of Talking to Myself” (Feb. 13), whose husband’s ears slam shut when she begins to speak. This is not a problem that’s exclusive to men. Women do it as well. As a retired PA (physician’s assistant), when talking with patients, I would refer to it as selective hearing loss.

Husband’s caring ministry doesn’t extend to his wife

Dear Abby: I have been married to the same man for 20 years. He likes having people around ALL the time, and because he is a minister, we often can’t avoid it. I have tried to accommodate his friends and hangers-on, but lately it’s becoming unbearable. He will say “yes” to people who have been evicted, and I find myself sharing living quarters with perfect strangers or church members without prior notice.

Sister getting married opts out of all-inclusive affair

Dear Abby: My only sister, “Carolyn,” is getting married in two months. I’m ecstatic for her. She and her girlfriend turned 50 this year, and this is the happiest I have ever seen her. They are perfect together. Carolyn asked me to be her maid of honor and I gladly accepted. I am also decorating for her small wedding and reception.

Adopted teen can’t shake anger felt for birth mother

Dear Abby: I am almost 13 and I’m struggling with a lot of different things. I was adopted when I was a baby, so I never lived with my birth mother. That’s probably a good thing, but I am having angry feelings toward her that I wish I wouldn’t have. Those feelings are also being directed at friends and family members.

Teen fears she will regret not choosing another path

Dear Abby: I have been dating “Brandon” for three years. I’m 19, going to a four-year college and I’m planning to move in with him. I enjoy his company and can see myself with him in the future, but I wish I hadn’t met him so young. I wish I could have experienced more — other people and situations. I’m afraid I’m falling into a trap where it is more convenient to stay with Brandon.

Couple encounters rough seas over gift of cruise vacation

Dear Abby: I represented my daughter “Stacy” and her husband as their real estate agent. When any of my children purchase a home, I waive my commission. My daughter knew I had been trying to finance a trip to South America for my husband so he could complete his “bucket list.” She gave me a cruise on one of the most expensive cruise lines and airfare to South America as a gift for helping with their home purchase.

Prayer can turn to panic during restaurant outings

Dear Abby: I’m comfortable with my faith and pray before a meal at home and at friends’ houses. We have become friendly with individuals from our church, and on many occasions have gone out to eat together at restaurants. When the meal is brought out, it has become a custom to pray. I feel uncomfortable praying aloud in public, and have seen others at our table already eating when someone says, “Let’s pray.”