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Up the Beach — The season of ambient light

This the season of ambient light on the North Beaches. That time of the year when the diffused sunshine sets a glow on the Old Man Moss and the lichens on the trees, and sets the yellow leaves of the deciduous bushes glowing like candlelight. Even though fall did not brush color on the vine maple, or on the Big leaf maples in the river bottoms, the sun brings cheer to the increasingly gloomy days. Makes one miss the glowing cranberry field that used to be a special, fall treat out on Burrows Road.

Travel diminished by sister’s teasing

Dear Abby: I am a single woman who raised three kids on one average income. They are all grown and on their own now. I still save and have a tight budget, but now I can spend some money on travel. I have opportunities to travel with friends and do it as often as I can afford.

‘Father, forgive them,’ Jesus asked. But has he?

Elder Donald D. Deshler, of the Seventy, Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints: One of the most significant roles that Jesus Christ plays is that of mediator. That is, he meditates on behalf of humankind with the Father (“…there is one Mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.” 1 Timothy 2:5).

Widow with younger lover is uneasy about their future

Dear Abby: I am a widow who has fallen in love with a wonderful man who is almost 30 years my junior. He proclaims his love for me every day, and I know it’s real. I have been warned by others to be aware of “devious males on the make for comfortably situated widows.” After discussing it with the man, I have determined this is not his motive.

Season signals time to change batteries as well as clocks

Dear Abby: Smoke alarms are one of the greatest fire safety success stories of our time. Since they were introduced in 1975, home fire deaths have been cut in half, even as the nation’s population has increased by half. But far too many people let the batteries in their smoke alarms wear out, or even remove them to avoid occasional nuisance alarms. And too many people — and their families — pay for their neglect or poor judgment with their lives.

Family chafes under cruel tyranny of a TV dictator

Dear Abby: I love my husband. We have been married for 45 years. But if he isn’t in control of the TV, he is unbearable. Even if someone else is watching something, he will come in and demand to change the channel. If he falls asleep and we change the channel back, he gets mad when he wakes up. He’ll change it back and immediately fall asleep again. I have tried to get him to understand he is being rude, but he doesn’t agree.

The Rock Doc — A better way to shine light in a dark world

Years ago I purchased a headlamp — a small flashlight that straps around your head to light your way. It’s really useful because it leaves both your hands free as you work or walk. I used my headlamp during the dark half of the year to exercise my dog in dark pastures and an undeveloped No Man’s Land on a steep hill near my house.

Haunted-house decor causes fright for neighborhood kids

Dear Abby: We have a neighbor who “decorates” his yard for Halloween in the worst way imaginable. Every year it becomes more macabre. He has “bodies” hanging from tree limbs, gravestones with RIP on dirt mounds and other unbelievable atrocities. He thinks it’s funny. It is despicable and it scares the children who must walk past his yard.

Cleanliness that’s nearly godly may set bar too high

Dear Abby: A wonderful man, “Frank,” said he was interested in developing a relationship. The problem? He is a super neat freak. A person could live in his garage — it’s THAT clean. The floor is spotless and everything is in its place. Frank washes and shines his car every second day. When there is a delivery to his house, he makes the delivery people remove their shoes before entering.