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Whistleblower confused by quiet

Dear Abby: I am a widow in my early 50s. While I was dating a prominent OB-GYN, I found out that he’s involved in criminal activity — operating a so-called “pill mill.” On our last date he asked me to join an escort service he was starting.

Wife’s online snooping reveals her lack of trust

Dear Abby: My wife used the search feature for the Ashley Madison emails and discovered an old account I had signed up for late one night, before we were together. I had forgotten all about it. When she brought it up, I panicked and lied because I was embarrassed, but immediately told her what it was. She was upset, but I explained the situation and that I hadn’t even thought about it since we have been together.

Nothing New — Tribal trials and tribulations

Long before the white man arrived on the shores of what is now Grays Harbor, it was home to the native peoples, which the newcomers had long termed “Indians.” They had lived here since time immemorial, living in cedar longhouses and subsisting on salmon, deer, bear and razor clams. In 1800, the Harbor tribes numbered an estimated 1,000 members before a series of epidemics decimated the population and by the 1870s only about 130 remained. Since then the numbers have rebounded and today the Quinault Nation is stronger than ever. Here are a number of stories from the past reflecting the trials and tribulations of the local native population.

Mark Harvey — The best time of my life

In some ways, it’s a rather magical time of year: its cooler, the leaves are turning and showing off and the more future-oriented among us are even thinking about the holidays. Change: It’s what marks and measures our lives, from one season to the next, the one constant: Change.

Caregivers for sick pets also deserve respite from stress

Dear Abby: Our family dog recently passed away after a year-long decline. I had grown up with him. He had reached the point where he needed daily care for his body, even though his mind was 100 percent there. Near the end, things got very bad. I got only about four hours of broken sleep a night caring for him, and no one in the family would help me. During part of his daily care routine, he had a second accident all over the freshly cleaned floor. I lost it and hit him.

What does it mean to love one another?

The Rev. Duke Tufty, Unity Temple on the Plaza, Kansas City: I have an acquaintance named Rupert who continually shows up at family functions, various meetings and other social occasions. I think Rupert is obnoxious, boisterous and overbearing.

Accent questions aren’t that rude

Dear Abby: I have lived in the United States for 40 years. My first 32 years were spent in Puerto Rico, so I speak with an accent. My problem is almost everyone I meet asks me where I’m from. I usually try to disguise my discomfort by jokingly asking them to guess.

Man told to hold his tongue demands an apology instead

Dear Abby: I was at my brother-in-law’s house with my husband and our 4-year-old daughter. We were playing our weekly video game, and when my brother-in-law won a round, he shouted a racial epithet. I asked him not to use it in front of my little girl because if she repeats it at school, she could be suspended, and we don’t use that kind of language in our family.

Mark Harvey — What are you buying?

For more years than I care to remember now, I’ve been taking every possible opportunity to over-state the obvious: (1) there are a lot of Elders, and (2) there are going to be more. One would think that these would not generally be perceived as unduly complex, or insightful, observations.

Adoptable Kitty: Twy wants you

Twy is whiling away his time, playing with his shelter pals while waiting for his new family (you) to come in and adopt him. Twy (pronounced “Twee”) is a six-year-old neutered male tabby cat. He’s upstairs at PAWS of Grays Harbor. Did you even know they had an upstairs?

Justice In Motion — One-tenth of one percent: Our money well spent

On Sept. 14, 2009, pursuant to RCW 82.14.460, the Grays Harbor County Board of County Commissioners passed Grays Harbor County Ordinance No. 382 to create a .1 percent sales and use tax for chemical dependency or mental health treatment services and therapeutic court programs. The Department of Revenue began collecting funds in January 2010 and the county receives the funds about every two months after collection. The fund collects about $800,000 each year depending on our spending on goods and services.