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Should church leaders shame members to stop sinning?

Rev. Justin Hoye, St. Patrick’s Catholic Church, Kansas City, North: Much like fire can be either devastating or enriching in its use, so too can shame. While shaming is often not the first tool we use in addressing a person’s sin, it certainly can be employed as a means to invoke healthy change.

Dear Abby — Wife learns man was seeking more than exercise at the gym

D ear Abby: I have been with my husband for 10 years. We were married six months ago. Before the wedding, we had some breakups. During one of them, he dated another woman briefly. The encounter led to her becoming pregnant, and she gave birth to a boy who is now a year old. I learned about her and her pregnancy five months before our wedding, but we have been able to work through it with intense counseling.

Justice in Motion — Rent and habitability issues: Don’t waive your rights

As you drive through Grays Harbor, it is difficult to miss the substandard housing and blight—the blue tarps, sagging/mossy roofs, boarded/broken windows, etc. Sadly, many of these properties are rental properties with absentee or apathetic landlords. Affordable habitable rental properties are seriously lacking in this community and many seem to accept this as the norm. However, and I’m not sure why, we have recently received an uptick in tenant complaints about their rental properties’ conditions. A few of these tenants were in rentals damaged in the January flood; most were not.

Hospital worker violated law by reading husband’s records

Dear Abby: “Concerned in Massachusetts” (Feb. 20) used her status as a hospital employee to access her husband’s medical records and found a history of STDs. I’m a registered nurse with 40 years’ experience. Every healthcare organization I know of teaches all their employees about HIPAA violations and that accessing private patient medical information is a criminal offense. It is essential that patients know they can trust us to protect their privacy. We have specific policies against using one’s employee status to access a relative’s medical information.

Secret engagement should stay secret awhile longer

Dear Abby: I have been dating my boyfriend, “Derek,” for four years. After a night of emotion-filled discussion, he asked me to marry him. I said yes, but it has always been a difficult idea for me to wrap my head around. I’m turning 21 and although that may be old enough for some people to get married and have kids, it scares the heck out of me.

Readers defend parents who disapprove of cohabitation

Dear Readers: On May 5, I printed a letter from a parent, “Against the Tide in New Jersey.” He said his “independent, intelligent, loving” daughters (both in their late 20s) have dated their boyfriends for five years and had recently moved in with them. The man also said he and his wife approve of the young men.