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Nun doesn’t need friend’s concern

Dear Abby: I was best friends with “Joanne” after we met in middle school. She comes from a conservative Christian family and has three successful siblings. This has made her quirky, media-driven pursuits and city life a disappointment to her family. When we were teens and she learned that I was a straight ally for gay rights, she came out to me as a lesbian, but for years only I and a few close friends knew.

Daughter deep in debt needs counseling, not more money

Dear Abby: Three years ago I gave my adult daughter, married with a child, more than $16,000 to help pay off her debts because she couldn’t pay her bills. She and her husband maintain separate accounts, which I find odd. He pays certain expenses; she pays others. Now I find she’s deep in debt again and needs more help.

Wife with wandering husband must track down legal advice

Dear Abby: I’m nearly 100 percent sure my husband is cheating on me. I tracked him a couple of times using the GPS on his phone and saw he wasn’t where he told me he would be. I know he has a female acquaintance who lives in the general area of where he was, so I did a little investigating. Sure enough, she lives exactly where he was. I don’t know whether to confront him now, or wait to try to catch him at her house so there will be no denying it.

Teen needs advice on contraception

Dear Abby: In my family alone, three young women have — by their own admission — gotten pregnant on purpose to get their boyfriends to marry and support them. None of these marriages worked out. The horrible relationships were and still are hurtful and damaging, not only to the children, but also to the rest of the family. I’m aware of several other women who have admitted to entrapping their baby daddy by “forgetting to take their pills,” so I know this isn’t just happening in my family.
 

Dear Abby — Wife learns man was seeking more than exercise at the gym

D ear Abby: I have been with my husband for 10 years. We were married six months ago. Before the wedding, we had some breakups. During one of them, he dated another woman briefly. The encounter led to her becoming pregnant, and she gave birth to a boy who is now a year old. I learned about her and her pregnancy five months before our wedding, but we have been able to work through it with intense counseling.

Justice in Motion — Rent and habitability issues: Don’t waive your rights

As you drive through Grays Harbor, it is difficult to miss the substandard housing and blight—the blue tarps, sagging/mossy roofs, boarded/broken windows, etc. Sadly, many of these properties are rental properties with absentee or apathetic landlords. Affordable habitable rental properties are seriously lacking in this community and many seem to accept this as the norm. However, and I’m not sure why, we have recently received an uptick in tenant complaints about their rental properties’ conditions. A few of these tenants were in rentals damaged in the January flood; most were not.

Hospital worker violated law by reading husband’s records

Dear Abby: “Concerned in Massachusetts” (Feb. 20) used her status as a hospital employee to access her husband’s medical records and found a history of STDs. I’m a registered nurse with 40 years’ experience. Every healthcare organization I know of teaches all their employees about HIPAA violations and that accessing private patient medical information is a criminal offense. It is essential that patients know they can trust us to protect their privacy. We have specific policies against using one’s employee status to access a relative’s medical information.

Secret engagement should stay secret awhile longer

Dear Abby: I have been dating my boyfriend, “Derek,” for four years. After a night of emotion-filled discussion, he asked me to marry him. I said yes, but it has always been a difficult idea for me to wrap my head around. I’m turning 21 and although that may be old enough for some people to get married and have kids, it scares the heck out of me.